Let Her Touch You

Face-to-Face or It's a Waste

It's been a while since I added a chapter and this chapter addresses questions that deal with communication with a woman who you want to get closer to.

A lot of guys are communicating with women by texting, IM, Facebook, Myspace, and Twitter. Everybody does it and so do you. She does it, and so do her friends. By doing so you think you're "connected." He's funny -- but I'd never date him

I say BULL! Sure you're connected along with a couple hundred other people.

You think you're special because she's responding to your texts? Because she sends you messages on Facebook? Because she lets you know what she's doing or wants to know what you're doing on Twitter? Don't believe it for a minute.

I've gotten a lot of questions that go something like this. "Hey Steve, things were going great, we were texting each other all the time and when I asked her out on a date she said, 'I thought we were friends'."

You thought you were making progress and she thought you were "friends." She thinks different than you.

Hey guys, you keep assuming she thinks like you.

SHE DOESN'T!!!!!

She thinks like a woman.

If you want to gain control you have to understand that. You have to take control and be in control and that means doing things the way you want-especially in deciding how you're going to communicate with her AND how available you are if she wants to communicate with you.

I have covered this before, but obviously the problem is more serious than I thought.

Drop all the digital and electronic communication crap and get to the personal meeting, the personal interaction and the talking face-to-face as soon as you can.

And then, when you have started the relationship keep the personal aspect going.

Wow -- he's much better in person That means be together IN PERSON as often as YOU want to. Do not fall into the impersonal cyber-world trap that everybody is in.
Sure, we think we're connected with our "friends," and we accumulate them on Facebook like little girls collecting charms for their bracelet, but we're only connected on paper, or in this case on our computer screen, or iPhone screen.

You want to be connected?

Nothing is better than sitting across from the woman of your dreams and looking into her eyes and enjoying listening to her talk as she touches you.

Accept no substitutes. If you're sending her a message it should be "call me."

If she texts or Twitters or Facebook messages you "What are you doing now?" Your response should be something like "Can't tell you now, call me." Or how about this response? "Later."

If you can't get to her the way you want, make her come to you.

If she doesn't, move on to the one who does.

If you like her and want to see more of her and want to be with her in person, you must take control. If you don't have control at the start it will be hard to get control.

Afraid you might lose her using "Steve's Method"? Well if you do, I say you didn't have her anyway. You can only truly build her interest in you as a person. Human to human. That's the only time she can touch you, when she's there.

I'm so glad we met Sure, you can create an element of mystery through digital communication but the only way you can build or strengthen a relationship is in person.

Not on the phone, not through email, text message or Facebook.

ONLY IN PERSON!!!

And if you insist on that you will be different than most guys out there.

Stay tuned, more to come.